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RELATIONSHIP ISSUES

Relationship therapy can be beneficial for individuals looking to strengthen their connection at any stage of a relationship. When partners share such an intimate bond, it becomes easy to unconsciously trigger one another's issues. Often, the issues that are deeply rooted in history and childhood come to surface in current relationships. The connection between current relationship issues and personal history is a thread that regularly goes untouched or unnamed. When you can look deeper within, and bring these connections to your consciousness, you can become more empathetic, patient, and loving partners. 


You possess the ability to have and maintain a healthy relationship. Our clinicians help you discover tools, and learn skills, to improve communication, repair trust after a conflict, get on the same page about intimacy, and balance your wants and needs with your partner’s.  

Codependency

Codependency describes a pattern of relating to others (partners, family, friends) in which you focus primarily on their needs at the expense of your own. This care for others is a beautiful quality – and one that healing from codependency would not erase. But often, codependency leads to unhealthy relationships.


Codependency may stem from being with a partner who struggles with addiction or mental illness. It may also be tied to childhood trauma or relational trauma that impacts your attachment style and your ability to form secure attachments, your self-worth, and your ability to trust yourself.


Therapy for codependency can help you learn to focus on your own needs, love and trust yourself, and form healthier relationships with everyone in your life.

Love Addiction


Love addiction is described as one person “loving” another person with an obsessive intensity that is not in the best interest of either party. Love addicts spend an excessive amount of time and effort on a person to whom they are addicted. Love addicts value this person above themselves, and their focus on the beloved other is often obsessive. Love addicts also tend to enjoy the feeling of excitement that being “in love” brings. This behavior results in love addicts neglecting to care for themselves in a variety of ways, in essence abandoning important aspects of their lives and well-being to stay connected to the object of their affection.


A love addict’s core fantasy is the expectation that someone else can solve their problems, provide unconditional positive regard at all times, and take care of them. When this unrealistic need isn’t met, love addicts may find themselves feeling resentful, and may create conflict in their relationships with others.


Some love addicts find that when not involved in a love-addicted relationship, they are able to care for themselves quite adequately. However, when they become involved, the love addict quickly finds that their self-care capacity steadily declines. A love addict will typically experience intense pain and depression when a relationship ends and will devalue themselves in order to sustain the relationship and to avoid abandonment and withdrawal. Love addiction is the tendency to give a tremendous amount of energy on romantic

relationships. Whether it is being involved in one, looking for the next one, or avoiding one altogether. The causes of love addiction are rooted in childhood trauma. 


Therapy will support you in understanding the roots of love addiction and what you specifically need to heal and break free of compulsive relationship patterns, manage and overcome abandonment anxiety, and feelings of low self-worth. This work will lead to discovering your emotional and relationship needs and finding new and healthy ways to meet them.

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